Season 3 - Episode 52: How to Know the Difference Between Fantasy and True Desire

So many of us think we’re following our desires - but what we’re often following… is fantasy or someone else's idea of what our life "should" be.

The fantasy of the perfect relationship.

The perfect career.

Life that looks good on paper.

The perfect body - the ageless face.

The version of success or love we were taught should make us happy.

And while fantasy can feel exciting or intoxicating at first, it often comes with pressure, anxiety, urgency, and attachment to “potential.”

True desire feels very different. It's grounded, quiet & clear.

In this episode, I explore the subtle - but life-changing - difference between fantasy and true desire, and how learning to recognize it can transform not only your relationships, but the way you make every major decision in your life.

Because this isn’t just about dating.

It’s about:

Who you choose to love

The work you say yes to

The dreams you pursue

And whether you’re building a life that actually feels aligned… or just looks good from the outside.

Inside this conversation, I share:

• how conditioning and old wounds shape what we think we want
• the ways we chase potential instead of reality what true desire actually feels like in the body and nervous system
• how to slow down and make choices from self-trust instead of fear or proving
• the shift from Saboteur patterns into your grounded, self-led Heroine

This episode is an invitation to stop performing a life and start choosing one that genuinely feels like you.

If you’ve ever reached something you thought you wanted. only to feel empty once you got there - this conversation will offer clarity, language, and a new way forward.